To Death do Us...meh, we probably won't make it that long

"Someone stole my heart...and left me for dead"

So, I've been meaning to post this for awhile and really what finally provoked me was not only a very cool picture of me in a wedding dressed covered in blood...but also learning that a decent DJ with a sexy voice was partnered on SL recently. Mostly my shock over this discovery was because his partner was a crazy FANGIRL wearing multiple tags/titlers that said "XX's Babygirl" and various other ownership titles. Also, she was dressed trashy...but that's besides the point.

The fact is on Secondlife I have this theory that applies 9 out of 10 times...as soon as you partner the person you're "romantically involved with" on SL, you've doomed the relationship. I can cite numerous couples that proved this theory to be true. Now, it's completely different if the relationship is not exclusive to SL. I'm mostly talking about the "wow his avie is so cute and we have fun, let's partner."

Commitments are hard enough in RL, how can you work through that in a virtual world? Especially when people are busy with RL...sometimes busy with another person in RL. Making a commitment in any relationship requires saying that person is who you like above all others. I question how that statement can be made when, as a general policy, RL comes before SL.

So my advice is, don't partner...unless it's something you want to pursue in an RL fashion, because a partnership in either reality demands lots of time, effort, and energy.